The other day a conversation started about having kids when you are young or older and the pros and cons of each. Financial stability versus younger bodies that can take the lack of sleep, maturity vs the ability to play basketball with your kids, etc. Then yesterday in church our Pastor spoke about the importance of teaching your kids about God. They may have a wonderful Sunday School teacher - but who is teaching them Monday - Saturday about God? This really hit home to me, even though I do not have children. In order for me to able to do that then I will need to be confident in my faith to show my child(ren) about their God, their Savior. Not mom and dad's faith that they can cling to - but their own relationship with God. Their God.
The more I think about it, one of the other really important things to me is that I am confident in who I am when I have kids. Who I am not only in Christ, but as a woman and child of God. {Let me interject by saying I know that I don’t really have room to talk since I don’t have kids, but this is just my thoughts about when that time comes}. Hopefully I will evolve into an even better version of myself when I have children, but I am so thankful that I have had the time to learn who I was as Emily Millar and who I am as Emily Day. Hopefully I will always be growing and evolving but the core will always remain. I know what I like, what makes me mad, what my passions are, etc. Who knows - maybe one day these things may change. But for now, I am confident in me. Who I am. And I feel that one day when I become a mom it will be even better for my children that I know who I was before them and can continue to work on ME, to be a better wife, mom, sister, friend, aunt, daughter of God, etc. After all, there will be a day again when the kids are gone and you are back to husband and wife. That’s why I think it’s so important for couples to have date nights without the kids, women to have girl’s night {we need those relationships!} to be a better person.
One of my favorite ways to look at this is the verse that I got from Proverbs31 ministry not long ago. They encourage you to take 1 Peter 2:9 and make it personal and remind yourself of who you really are as a child of God: “I am a chosen woman, a royal priest, a holy daughter, a woman belonging to God, that I may declare the praises of him who called me out of darkness into his wonderful light.”
Other quotes that I like are:
“When you find peace within yourself, you become the kind of person who can live at peace with others.”
“The thing that is really hard, and really amazing, is giving up on being perfect and beginning the work of becoming yourself.” - Anna Quindlen
“Find out who you are and do it on purpose.” - Dolly Parton
"Later that day I got to thinking about relationships. There are those that open you up to something new and exotic, those that are old and familiar, those that bring up lots of questions, those that bring you somewhere unexpected, those that bring you far from where you started, and those that bring you back. But the most exciting, challenging and significant relationship of all is the one you have with yourself. And if you can find someone to love the you you love, well, that's just fabulous." - Carrie Bradshaw
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